Grandma Honey

Hello Hito,

Just to let you know that I (we)  remember you and miss you on your 17^th month of leaving us.  As we always do.

LULT……FOREVER

9/12/2012

My Dear Hito,

16 months have gone by and we continue to miss you!

LULT……..Forever

Postscript:  I think of you often, little boy.  I'll always remember you as a little boy.  Auntie Peggy

My Dear Dear Hito,

Thinking of you today as I often do.

15 months, gosh it doesn’t seem that long.

I hope you know how much you’re missed!

LULT…..FOREVER

I think of you often, too, Hito.  It's hard to believe that it's been 15 months since you left this hard world, but I know you wouldn't have chosen to.  I wish I had a chance to sit w/you next to a stream and talk about all the important things that really matter.  I wish...well, doesn't matter what I wish, but I loved you, always, since you were a baby, and still do.  If you know anyone important up there, tell them it's too soon for your grandma to go be with you.  We still need her, love, more than you.   We will all join you sooner or later.  PJ

14 MONTHS - STILL MISSED - GRANDMA HONEY

My Dear Sweet Leo,

So much has happened since you left us 14 months ago.  The time has flown by.

But I still miss you!  I pray that you are at peace in this oh so beautiful and happy place.

I tire easily now, so this is going to be short and sweet.

Till we see each other again, know that I love you now and forever.

LULT………..FOREVER

ONE YEAR

May 12, 2012

My dear sweet love.  It’s been a year since we lost you.  But you are still fresh in our minds.Maybe it’s because you are sitting safely in our hearts all the time.  As you know, I have been under the weather for a while, so I haven’t had the energy to write.  So now the family is running ragged helping me.  So much I want to say, but I am running low on energy.  I envision you happy in my Lord’s Arms always  trying to help.  You will always be special to me (to us).

LULT….  FOVEVER

Gramma Honey

Grandma

Hello My Sweet Hito,

Missing you today (and always) on your 10th anniversary.
·         Looking at pictures of you and remembering you growing up.
·         We were blessed to have you for the time that we did.
·         Thank you for the memories!!
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·         LULT...AND FOREVER!!!

Grandma Honey

My Dearest Hito, 

Gone but not forgotten.   Nine months have gone by since you left us.

What can I say, it has been doubly hard for us because not only have we lost you but we have also lost

Andy in so short a time.  So much pain.  Your mom is so heartbroken.  It has been hard for Andy’s mom and his siblings.

Hard for our family because he was a part of our family and we loved him.  And I’m sure hard for his true friends.

I don’t understand, but a wise young lady told ne this “we don’t need to agree or understand, but we just need to  accept.”

And she is so right because we cannot change it, no matter how hard we try.    So we can choose to live life by example or we can stay in our misery

and help no one,  not even ourselves.  Easier to say but much more difficult to live by. 

LULT….FOREVER

"To live in the hearts of those you leave behind is never to die"
~Robert Orr~

My Dear Leo

Thursday will be 8 months since you left us, but I am writing to you tonite because I will be traveling to Florida on that day.  I am going to say my good bye to Andy.  You know how we all loved him and what a big part of our family he was.  I keep hearing him say "it will be alright".  Boy we sure did not start 2012 with a happy tone did we.  Well hito we sure do miss you and now we are going to miss Andy.  We still cannot believe he is gone.  How cruel life can be sometimes.  He was just beginning to work thru his grief from loosing Josh.  Or I think he was because he was able to talk about him to us. I know that is the cycle, we're born, we live and we die.  But we are never prepared to loose the people we love.  Oh how difficult this last 8 months have been for our family and your friends.  And now how much more difficult it will be especially for your mom and for Andy's mom and both our families.  Our dear friend Paul was also dealt a double whammie right along with us.  Andy and your mom were so happy about their new home and how this was going to be a new start for them.  We will all be thinking of you and Andy and Josh.  Even though I did not know Josh very well because I only went to FL once a year. He was always so nice and polite to me.  Tell him I think of him often and wish I had been there to say good bye.  Andy cared for you alot and I know he missed you .   Andy was always sitting at his house and writting to you.  Give him a big hug for me. So now you will get a chance to hang with both of them.   This is going to be a difficult year for everyone that loved all of you!! 
I think I will say good night for now.  I feel like I am rambling, i don't think any of us has had a good nights
sleep since Andy got hurt .  And now back to Florida  3 trips in 8 months.  That's a record for me.

Sending my love to you, Andy & Josh!

LULT.....FOREVER

Hi Boys

Your are together now, dammit. It was hard enough losing Leo, and now you have left us, too. I spoke to Chris and she told me how good the last two weeks were for you two, how you seemed to be turning the corner from Josh's death and you were HAPPY, REALLY HAPPY. I am so sorry, Andy, that you died. Not just for Chris' sake, but because we loved you. I hope you are with Josh now and our Leo, and that you will watch over Chris and Carlos. And I hope that you can soften your daughter's heart some (I can't even bear to type her name), because she is making everything so very hard for Chris.

I wonder that people don't take better care of their loved ones, and prepare the way for them in the event of a tragedy like this. You truly screwed the pooch on that one. Your daughter is making Chris' life a living hell at the moment, and I know you will understand (even if you can't agree) when I say I hope she gets her comeuppance and pays dearly for her lack of compassion and human decency.

Fly well u til we speak again. Love PJ

Time My Love

To ease Andy's way to you, you and Josh. Your Mom is so broken, so ease her spirit all you can because I don't think we will be enough.

Andy
January 1, 2012

Hi Sweetie: Are you listening? You have probably had more people talking to you in the last six months than ever before. We miss you, but you know that, don't you! It's easier to appreciate all the idiosyncrasies when you know they are gone forever. But we never learn. The same lesson over and over and somehow the tragedies, the unthinkable still catches you by surprise.
Is Andy with you yet? I don't know if I have enough medical information or even if what I have is accurate, but if I do and it is, then I think he must already be there (hi, Andy - idiot, what the hell were you thinking). All those letters you wrote to Leo, talking about how careless he was with his life, and how sad he left his mom, and you go and do the very same thing.
Now, everyone is talking about what is right, and how things look, and what's not right. I wonder that no one learned that there is nothing right when this happens, or maybe that nothing is wrong. If you are honestly grieving, and there is no malice meant, and you're not a completely insensitive boob, then how could anything be the wrong thing to do. We all grieve alone, no matter what, and we all grieve differently. If someone needs a lock of hair, or a picture to give them some measure of comfort, then how can that be wrong, and what does it matter. So much fuss over such unimportant matters.
Dear Andy, if there is a miracle to be had, and you get a second chance, I would rejoice with all my being, but I don't believe God's miracles work like that. However, feel free to prove me wrong. And if not, then please give Leo a hug for me. For now, I'm so mad at you, and so very sad.

It'll be all right.

Auntie Janet

Dear Andy,
 
Just the other day I was reading Leo's blog, and I know I've told you this before, but I shall tell you again,...I think that you should write a book!  Every time I read your letters, I laugh and I think to myself,... Andy should write a book!  It looks like you will have plenty of down time, so when you are sitting in bed recovering, you should start your book! 
 
Love you
 
j